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Funeral Etiquette

We've compiled a guide on how you can respectfully offer your condolences at a funeral or cemetery. For additional questions, please reach out to our staff.

 


 

Funeral Etiquette

What to Say and What Not to Say

What to Say and What Not to Say

A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” is appropriate when offering your condolences. Say what feels right in the moment. Avoid phrases such as “they are in a better place” or “this is God’s plan” because they may not hold these views.

What to Wear

What to Wear

Learn what the dress code is beforehand. Now that funerals are more personalized, not everyone will want their guests to wear black. If there is no dress code, assume that you should dress conservatively, without bringing attention to yourself.

Religious and Ethnic Customs

Religious and Ethnic Customs

If the family has religious or ethnic customs different than your own, it is helpful to find out any special considerations before the service. You can ask us for advice and additional resources if you are unsure.

Paying Your Respects

Paying Your Respects

When there is an open-casket, guests are expected to visit the casket and pause for a moment of silence. You will know if the family will show you to the casket or if you are to approach it on your own. If you are uncomfortable viewing the deceased, you do not need to view them.

Giving Flowers and Gifts

Giving Flowers and Gifts

Typically, guests will send flowers, donate money, or give a memorial gift to the family of the deceased. Sometimes the family will make special requests depending on their situation.

Signing the Register Book

Signing the Register Book

Use your full name when signing the register book. You can also add your relation to the deceased.

Avoid Cellphone Disruptions

Avoid Cellphone Disruptions

To avoid any disruptions, silence or turn off your phone before entering the funeral home.

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3860 Asbury Road, Dubuque, IA


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